This is a rant with a purpose. It is to inform you all of something that happened to me yesterday. I hope you will all learn from my mistakes, and maybe offer advice if you’ve been in this situation before. This is about my DD-9 (High Functioning Autism/ADHD).
Every day I pack a Bento Box with FAILSAFE Gluten free foods for lunch and a little extra for a snack. If there is a class event, I make sure to bring in a special snack. But yesterday morning I receive a call from DD’s teacher… she had forgotten to call and let me know that she was rewarding the whole class with doughnuts and orange juice. OK, so normally, I would rush something appropriate over to the school. Even in my pajamas. But, I had Kettle chips in the house and pretty much nothing else DD would eat. She is super picky and hates most FS foods (but more on that later). And they were eating RIGHT THEN. What is a mom to do?
Luckily, DD had told the teacher she couldn’t have orange juice, (excuse me, Sunny Delight) but really wanted the doughnut holes. My mind racing with the implications- with the biggest one being DD throwing a huge tantrum if she DIDN’T get the treat. So I tell her that she can give Amelia the doughnut holes, but that by doing so she needs to: a) watch her for signs of tummy issues from the gluten, b) watch her behavior for potential issues from the crap in the doughnuts, and c) make sure Amelia visits the restroom several times throughout the day just in case…
So I get off the phone and beat myself up for the next hour. It all comes back to ME not being prepared enough with a special treat in the classroom for times like this, ME not having enough food that DD will eat in the house at all times, ME not preparing DD enough for times when she will be confronted with non FS treats. Ugh!!